How gorgeous is my baby girl?! She is stunning! Her personality is something I’ve never seen before! She is the perfect combination of Brody and I. She is the baby that changed it all! We honestly wouldn’t be where we are today without her. She is amazing!
This past year I have been on the struggle bus as a mom. Being pregnant again took a lot out of me. I definitely slacked in life and she picked up my pieces. She took care of me and helped me so much until her brother came. This summer has been hard trying to still do the things she likes while having her brother. But I noticed something the other day. We live in workout clothes year round. B will wear workout clothes with a bow and she always looks cute but the other day she said something that really hit my mommy heart. I told her one day that she looked really pretty. She told me that she doesn’t look pretty anymore. She said she was pretty when she was little but now that she’s bigger she isn’t pretty. She said she looks like a boy. This about broke my heart! Why is my almost 6 year old saying this already? Have I failed as a mom? I grew up with my mom and dad always telling me I was pretty. My mom would always tell me things and say this is what pretty girls do. (Pretty much being sweet and acting right is what pretty girls do) My parents taught me how to be pretty from the inside out. But the other day when B told me she wasn’t pretty and that she looked like a boy, I knew I wasn’t failing but I wasn’t doing my job as a mom.
children the way they should go Proverbs 22:6
God created her to be beautiful! But beauty is many things! As a mom, my job is to teach her to be beautiful on the inside. To have God in her heart and to know she is beautiful all the time. My mom always said “To be pretty, you have to act pretty.” This is so true! It used to drive me crazy! But I also think as a mom I need to tell her she’s beautiful everyday! No matter what she’s wearing or looks like. No matter if her hair is up in a ponytail or down. I think it’s also very important for dads to tell their daughters they are beautiful too! Not just when they look nice but everyday. I don’t say this so our babies will grow to be conceded, I say this so they will be confident and know that they are beautiful and loved.
But going back to being a mom, I need to also see myself as beautiful all the time. I don’t need to talk down to myself or say I’m not pretty with no make up on. I need to stand in front of the mirror with my own kind of confidence. I need to show and teach her how to be pretty and how to love myself! I need to show her my heart for God and show her how to have a heart for God! I need to teach her how to make good decisions and how to be a true friend to others.
So to my point. Tell your babies how beautiful they are all the time! Tell yourself how beautiful you are. Teach your girls how to be beautiful from the inside out and how to show God in their beauty daily! I think this is one of the most important jobs we have as a mom and as a dad! I truly believe by instilling this inside them, they will make great decisions in life.